With Bereaved Mother’s Day behind us and Mother’s Day a few days away, many people may find themselves navigating a swirl of emotions—grief, longing, love, resentment, or even numbness. Whether you’ve lost a child, are grieving a parent, are walking through infertility, are childless not by choice, are estranged from your family, or have a complicated relationship with the title “mother,” these days can bring unexpected waves.

There is no one-size-fits-all way to approach Mother’s Day. Wherever you are on your path, you deserve space to feel what you feel and to honor your needs.

Here are some tips for coping with these days:

1. Acknowledge What You’re Feeling

You don’t have to “be okay” just because you think you should. Whether you’re feeling sadness, anger, joy, or nothing at all—your emotions are valid. Give yourself permission to feel what you need without judgment.

2. Name What the Day Means to You

What does Mother’s Day or Bereaved Mother’s Day represent to you personally? It might be a day of remembrance, a day to disconnect, a day to reflect, or a day to honor a part of your story. Naming it can be a powerful act – one that helps you reclaim a sense of agency in an experience that may otherwise feel out of control.

3. Plan Ahead (or Don’t)

Some people find comfort in planning—a walk in nature, lighting a candle, journaling, or gathering with a supportive friend or group. Others may want to avoid the day entirely. There’s no wrong way to protect your peace. So choose something that speaks to you.

4. Limit Exposure to Social Media

If scrolling through photo tributes and celebratory captions feels like too much, it’s okay to log off. Give yourself a break from the highlight reels, especially if they’re not reflective of your current reality.

5. Create Your Own Ritual

Rituals can be grounding, even when we feel disconnected. You might write a letter, plant something in memory, wear a piece of jewelry, or cook a favorite dish. Small acts can carry deep meaning.

6. Lean on Safe People

Reach out to those who “get it”—whether that’s a therapist, a support group, or a trusted friend. Being witnessed in your grief or struggle can ease the isolation these days often bring.

7. Give Yourself Permission to Opt Out

Attending a Mother’s Day brunch or event may be more than you can handle. You are allowed to say “not this year,” or “not right now,” or find a way to negotiate the amount of time you are there. Setting boundaries is a form of self-care.

Remember: You are not alone. These days are complicated for many, even if no one speaks that out loud. However you choose to move through this time, may you feel seen, supported, and gently held.

If you’re looking for a space to process these feelings further, therapy can be a powerful place to begin.